Let down
June 29, 2008
So we all know the saying that says something to the effect that we don’t see faults in our role models. But when you finally do see the faults it seems to hurt a lot. The worst is when that person calls you out on something and tells you that it is bad and not to do that and then you find out that they are guilty of the same thing. Hypocrisy is probably the most annoying thing to see in a role model and frankly it pisses me off when you find these sort of things out. Not only does it destroy a lot of trust but it makes you wonder if they are failing in one area then what else are they doing that they warned you not to do. It really makes me angry because I will just sit and wonder if things that I previously though they were below them are things that they do all the time. The perfect/near-perfect image of them is shattered beyond repair.
This is really similar to finding out thing about people at school that you previously thought we above reproach. I can’t mention any names here but if you know me then I have probably ranted about these people before. It’s not that I condemn them for what they do (drink, smoke, sex) it’s just surprising to all of the sudden find out that half of NHS/TI members aren’t the “clean” people you thought they were. It is just sad that every new person I meet now at school I have to wonder “well they seem nice but..” and it might sound harsh to assume they do stuff like that (and again I am not condemning it) I just want to tell them to “Take a bow” for putting on such a show for everyone. This year has been a huge year for finding out stuff that I was too nieve to see before. I just wish I could assume nice things instead of asking myself does this person drink, smoke, or have sex and thinking that it must be one of those. The few friends I have that don’t drink or smoke have there own problems and similarly with my friends that dont smoke. I am not pointing fingers and yes I don’t think that these thing are good things to be doing but hey I’m not perfect so I really shouldn’t judge them. To wrap up these thought that I know are scattered I just want to say one more time in this second paragraph I am NOT pointing to certain people (think of them but defiantly not calling them out on their actions
July 5, 2008 at 5:12 am
hmm does no one know what to say or am i the only one reading this?
Anyway, if you want friends without problems, youre not gonna have any friends. Real friends are not the ones that see past the faults but the ones who see the faults and stick with you. I know it can be depressing to watch but this is the world we live in. Take a second to remember why youre here.
July 7, 2008 at 4:22 am
apparently ur the one who thought up something to say the fastest.
As for the rest, well i think a lot of those people have been playing a role for adults or their peers for so long that they don’t even notice it. It happens to a lot of people, though some people are masking different things than say bad behavior. It’s just something that we’ve gotta live with. You’ve just gotta take everyone with a grain of salt, while remembering that sometimes you just have to blindly trust and risk getting hurt when you’re let down. It’s apart of being human.
July 14, 2008 at 2:03 pm
Hey,
As much as you want your role model to be perfect…they are still human. They have flaws they make mistakes and sometimes on the rare occasion they do something unthinkable. I’m not sure what your role model screwed up at and i don’t know how your relationship with him/her is but in my experience he/she needs you as much as you need him/her and maybe he/she calles you out on stuff so maybe you turn out better than him/her…talk to him…let him know what your feeling or thinking. I’m sure he’ll listen b/c if it’s anything like my case he cares about you and would do anything for you.